When Your Mother Has Borderline Personality Disorder

A Guide for Adult Children

By: Daniel S. Lobel PhD

Narrated by: Daniel S. Lobel PhD

Length: 4 hrs and 23 mins

Publisher's summary

Caring for yourself and your relationship with your mom who has BPD.

Growing up with a mom who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is difficult - but it’s still possible to have a functioning adult relationship with her. When Your Mother Has Borderline Personality Disorder provides you with crucial information for understanding the patterns behind her Borderline Personality Disorder, as well as the tools you need to start your own recovery process.

Find ways to reconcile your complicated thoughts and feelings with straightforward and easy-to-use techniques. You’ll also discover a number of sample dialogues that give you blueprints for safe and secure interactions in a variety of situations.

When Your Mother Has Borderline Personality Disorder includes:

• You, your mother, and Borderline Personality Disorder - Learn why your mother behaves the way she does and how to maintain a relationship with her - without getting hurt.
• The help you need - Start healing with essential self-care strategies that will help you rebuild your self-esteem, cope with anxiety, protect your family, and more.
• Research-based tools - Get proven advice based on the most up-to-date approaches for managing a relationship with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder.

Get the help you need moving forward with the compassionate guidance of When Your Mother Has Borderline Personality Disorder.

©2019 Rockridge Press (P)2021 Audible, Inc.

Deeply healing & life changing

This was one of the most validating books I’ve ever read and explains my entire upbringing. I really appreciate that it is compassionate to both mothers with BPD and their children (like myself). Coming to terms with childhood trauma is incredibly difficult, but this book is so practical & hopeful. I recommend this to anyone who cares about understanding BPD, and especially to those who suspect that their mother may have it. Truly grateful for this book, sending love to all who relate x

Helped me A lot

Recommended by my therapist. Really put into perspective my childhood and how it effected me growing up. Good tools, advice, and resources.

Great advice IF you decide to or must continue a relationship with someone with BPD

This book does offer some solid, straightforward advice for maintaining a relationship with a parent with BPD. It also helped me recognize some specific habits I have that are due to my experience being raised by a mother with BPD, such as explaining (and over explaining) how I use my time to others when it is really not necessary.

However, the book is not a good fit for people who are considering or already implementing no contact with their parent with BPD. Indeed, considering how to implement the advice in this book - which continues to have the adult child take care of their parent by working hard to create and maintain boundaries with parents who never learn - pushed me to the decision to go no contact. This book helped me realize that I am not interested in working so hard to have an unsatisfying relationship with a person who is so unlikely to change. If this is what must be done to have a relationship with someone with BPD, then I will opt out and continue to spend my life only with people who are capable of reciprocal love and respect. The only exception, of course, will be the children in my life, for whom it is developmentally normal to require one-sided care. I’ve put in my time and I’m not taking care of able adults anymore.

Superb. Saving my sanity and reclaiming my life.

Thank you so much for writing this book. Gave me the tools to be respectful, responsible and brave. So many big steps and powerful changes are coming from it. If I could bear hug you; I would. Recommending to family members and friends.

I felt like I was listening to the story of my life

I’ve known that our family was dysfunctional for the longest time due to the behaviors of my mother. I learned how to cope with it and strived to maintain the peace within our family by abiding to my mother’s will. Recently, another family member reached out to me and shared that she could possibly have BPD. I was a bit skeptical, but did my own research and came across this book. After listening to this audiobook, there is not a doubt in my mind that she suffers from it. This book has brought me a lot of peace and comfort in finally being able to answer my endless questions of why my mother is the way that she is and why I am the way that I am. I feel like reading this book has been my first step to healing and I have hope that I am able to get it.