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Polysecure

By: Jessica Fern
Narrated by: Jessica Fern, Eve Rickert, Nora Samaran
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Attachment theory has entered the mainstream, but most discussions focus on how we can cultivate secure monogamous relationships. What if, like many people, you’re striving for secure, happy attachments with more than one partner?

Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern breaks new ground by extending attachment theory into the realm of consensual nonmonogamy. Using her nested model of attachment and trauma, she expands our understanding of how emotional experiences can influence our relationships. Then, she sets out six specific strategies to help you move toward secure attachments in your multiple relationships.

Polysecure is both a trailblazing theoretical treatise and a practical guide. It provides nonmonogamous people with a new set of tools to navigate the complexities of multiple loving relationships and offers radical new concepts that are sure to influence the conversation about attachment theory.

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©2020 Jessica Fern (P)2020 Thornapple Press

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FANTASTIC

This was a very good listen and worth a few listens. I am new to polyamory and I'm learning what my partner and I want are different and how to have that discourse.

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Excellent!

Such a great introduction to attachment, trauma, and ENM. Coming into this book, which was recommended to me by someone, I had basic understanding of attachment. This was an excellent explanation of attachment theory and how attachments impact our relationships and why. I would highly recommend!

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Enlightened and empowering

This book gives you the words to discuss complex and complicated topics, it's presented peacefully and thought through rationally. Excellent job of communicating a challenging topic to dissect.

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essential book for any non monogamous peeps

get insights of attachment styles and ways to navigate them and how to identify them.

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I wasn't ready for it to End

This might be my first written review if a piece. I just have to say that this book was very uplifting in almost all regards and just listening helped me heal in different regards. this is excellent advice for ploy and mono relationships.

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Exceptional self healing book

Please read this regardless of whether you are polyamorus or not. This will improve all of your relationships. What a wonderful book!

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Attachment theory for poly fold

I found this to be mostly technical perspective on attachment theory and the last third to be practical information. It’s worth the quick read to get both aspects.

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super helpful for any relationship

I found myself reflecting on a lot of my own relationship history and understanding a lot of the subtext that I overlooked the first time I went through them. is really helpful not only for understanding polyamory and secure relationships but also and reflecting on your own understanding of yourself.

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Must read for therapists & CNM folks.

A validating, compassionate, nonjudgmental, & practical application of attachment theory in ethical nonmonogamy (CNM). Recommend.

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wow

I found this book to be extremely helpful and thought provoking. My deepest gratitude to the author.

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